The World of Imbalance in the 21st Century!!

Ahaaa! it’s my favorite topic – Men in this amazing country called India!! They say Men from Mars and Women are from Venus but surprisingly none have been successful in understanding each other. Men say it’s difficult to comprehend a woman and women say it’s pointless to try understanding a man.

We take pride in announcing to the world that “INDIA IS PROGRESSING” but surprisingly, the 21st century Indian alpha male is still in a reclining phase. He still abuses the women in his life – orally as well as physically. The same women who cooks him food, provides him fresh laundered clothes, takes care of his children, supports him psychologically, physically, mentally, verbally and in every other sense. He still cages his love behind the bars of more personal and less social taboos. He still does not want her to take responsibilities and never lets her take charge because HE is the man of the house. The bitter truth is, even today, the Indian Alpha Male does not like and let her woman wear the pants in the house as well as office. It would not be wrong to say that men in this country are hypocrites and two faced. The famous Indian boxer – Mary Kom comes to my mind when I think of male chauvinism where she was pulled down to pursue her interest – boxing! Hats off to the INDIAN woman for not listening to the male bullshit, excelling in what she knows the best and making the country proud.

Except a small percentage who take their own decisions, majority Indian women still depend on the males in their houses – be it their father, brother, boyfriend, lover, husband, son or whatever and whoever. To quite an extent, women are at fault. Someone only takes charge of your life when you let him to. People take advantage of you when you allow them to.

3E model is the best answer to cope up with this problem prevailing in the India society – Education, Exposure and Extroversion for women. Following any one or two of these will fail to achieve its motive. In that case, the result will be a country with the similar state as Kerala – God’s own country; the literacy rate is high but the women are still degenerating. Reason – Absence of other two E’s – Exposure & Extroversion. The women in Kerala, though highly educated, still are barred from exposure and are married at a young age of 20 – 21 years.

Rather than taking an easy route of relying on men to make decisions for them, women in India need to be tough and courageous enough to take the road less traveled. The 21^st century ultra-modern Indian woman needs to come out of her dolled up avatar and be the man in this male dominated society. The day this happens; we are able to put a period to the crime against women, women are able to stand equally along with the males in society in the true sense and are brought up under the 3E model, India will be realistically progressing and developing!!!!!

Changing Meanings of Relationships

Change is constant. Change is inevitable. Change is recursive. Everything, each and every being undergoes change and that too without noticing it himself or herself. Over a period of time, without realizing, we, ourselves, do undergo so much transformation that when we sit and take notice of it, it is astonishing, sometimes pleasant and sometimes unpleasant. A major part in this whole process is played by the people whom we come across knowingly or unknowingly, personally or professionally, willingly or unwillingly.

Life is difficult and complicated. And the icing on the cake is that people around us make it miserable, and it would not be wrong if I say that they leave no stone unturned to make it pathetic. At times I am not able to understand how people around us can be so selfish and mean that despite calling themselves your friend and well-wisher, they turn a blind eye to you, your state of mind and your emotions. What kind of friendship is this? What species are they? Or should I say, I am of a different and rare species. Or relationships have undergone absolute transformation and I should not expect the same old reciprocation of feelings. It pains me to see the mean behavior of the people around, those people who are your immediate family in an unfamiliar place where you are to be in for a long time. Then they say there are all kinds of people in this world and you got to manage them as well as yourselves.

Not only friends, even the relationship between a parent and a child, husband and wife, brother and sister have undergone so much change that it forces one to think that are we camouflaging unethical thoughts in the name of space in relationships. I might sound to be in favor of old school thought despite being a woman of ultra-modern 21^st century, but at the same time, what does one mean by modernism? In my view it has nothing to do with the kind of clothes i wear, the kind of lifestyle I follow, the kind of independence I enjoy. It is all in my head, my thought process and viewpoint about everything happening around me. I am an educated, independent woman of 21^st century with a thought process of her own, of which I am proud of, because it comes with experience and sailing through difficult situations and people.

A few years back, the meaning of relationships was absolutely different. I am afraid, now-a-days, it is changing for worse. Where is the world leading to? What is the end result? Is it going to go on like this? Should we expect some good things coming up next? Or should we just let the things go on the way they are? WAIT & WATCH and keep your sanity strong enough to grasp and withhold the upcoming views!!!!!